Grief and Love are 2 sides of the same coin; we grieve what we love.
Last night I had the great pleasure of beginning a three-month seminar on 𝙂𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙛 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙇𝙤𝙨𝙨 𝙀𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙖𝙡𝙨: 𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙘𝙤𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙨 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙗𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙘𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 with the lovely @Dina Bell-Laroche with GriefUnleashed hosted by the InstituteOfCoaching.
✴️Grief is not something we get over.
✳️Grief is not just about death.
🌠 Grief is not a disorder or a healing 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴.
Grief 𝗜𝗦 however an experience; it is something we all experience as life is in continual transition. Loss is everywhere, and as a culture its important we train our minds to understand loss does not equal negativity or sadness. Grief is HEALTH -- and becomes integrated with who we are, and become, as human beings.
This morning, as I was reflecting on last nights session, I was simultaneously reading the NYT and watching videos on the destruction of Hurricane Milton. I have family in Tampa and St. Pete's.
One specific OpEd columnist @Margaret Renkl recently wrote about the many (often cruel) remarks people say about the victims -- literally blaming them. "𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦, 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘦..., 𝘸𝘩𝘺 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘤𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘦, 𝘰𝘳 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘤𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘨𝘦𝘵..."
Such questions however never seem to take into account the 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 to a home, to a life that was built, or to the extreme moving costs that many don't simply cant afford, not to mention that under some circumstances, evacuating is not actually safer or even possible.
✨Grief is an 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 to something that is lost.
Thank you @Dina for such a heart-felt, well informed beginning to what I am sure will be an amazingly rich seminar, offering a parallel process for both myself and the clients I serve.
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